1. What did you do in 2013 that you'd never done before?
Lost my Mom to cancer, memorized hospital cafeteria menus, let go of control of my clients and job to take a ton of leave to just spend time with family and just BE.
2. Did you keep your new year's resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I am not a resolution kind of person.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Many friends scattered around the country. My SIL also had a baby, giving Simon his first cousin.
4. Did anyone close to you die?
My mom. I didn't write directly about her illness or death here (I'm still not quite strong enough to manage), but my dad wrote beautifully about all of it here if you feel like crying today.
5. What countries did you visit?
None. We traveled back and forth between Minnesota and Chicago every three weeks or so for the bulk of the year, visiting my mom as much as possible before she passed away in October.
6. What would you like to have in 2014 that you didn't have in 2013?
Less stress. More "me" time to relax. Less travel.
7. What dates from 2013 will be etched upon your memory, and why?
They are mostly sad, I'm afraid. I made a lot of happy memories this year, too, but I didn't not the actual dates of many of them. January 31st - the day I got the call Mom was in ICU, the beginning of the hospital visit that would end in a terminal diagnosis. May 12th - my first mother's day as a mom and my last with my mom. October 12th - the day Mom passed away. October 17th - her memorial service.
8. What was your biggest achievement of this year?
Surviving. With a year like 2013 that's enough.
9. What was your biggest failure?
Nothing comes to mind. All the things that were hard/sad about this year were well out of my control. I don't think failing to cure cancer with the power of my thoughts is really a failure.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
I had the stomach flu twice and landed in the ER with kidney stones once. The kidney stones refused to go away and got me a CAT scan a week later, too. All is well again now.
11. What was the best thing you bought?
I got it as a gift, so I didn't buy it, but I love love love my Kindle. I've finally been able to start reading more again now that I don't have to carry paper books around with me when I'm already carring a million other things.
I also didn't buy the new car (2012 Hyundai SantaFe), but that has been really nice as well. (We inherited it from Mom.)
12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
Simon's. I celebrate him every day for a million reasons. I need to write another update post about him.
13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
87% of the people featured in stories on the news.
14. Where did most of your money go?
Airfare and daycare.
15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
So many Simon things. His crawling and standing and walking and talking. His birthday. Everything. This morning I was excited because he woke up before I left the house and I got to snuggle him.
16. What song will always remind you of 2013?
Hmm. I'm not sure, I can't think of anything in particular. I haven't listened to much new music.
17. Compared to this time last year, are you: a) happier or sadder? b) thinner or fatter? c) richer or poorer?
Both happier and sadder, depending on what I'm thinking about at the time. Neither thinner nor fatter, slightly poorer.
18. What do you wish you'd done more of?
While I spent as much time with my Mom this year as was at all possible I think I'll always wish for more. There is no "enough".
19. What do you wish you'd done less of?
Worrying about things I couldn't change.
20. How did you spend Christmas?
Driving all over creation. We started an hour and a half south of Chicago at my inlaw's on Saturday, left there Sunday morning to stop home and change out what all was packed in the car. Then we drove to Tomah, Wisconsin for Sunday night. Monday we drove the rest of the way to Minnesota to my Dad's house. Tuesday (Christmas Eve) we drove back to Wisconsin to my Aunt's house. Wednesday (Christmas Day) was back to Minnesota. Sunday we did the whole drive back to Chicago. SO MANY MILES.
21. Did you fall in love in 2013?
Not with anyone new. Still in love with T and Simon, because how could I not be?
22. What was your favorite TV program?
We watched the forth season of The Voice this spring with my Mom and I really liked that. I also watched a ton of Chopped both with her and on my own. Despite not particularly liking eating or cooking super elaborate things I do love my Food Network.
23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?
I have too short of an attention span to sustain hate.
24. What was the best book you read?
Timebound by Rysa Walker and Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell.
25. What was your greatest musical discovery?
Same as last year: I don't listen to a lot of music, I mostly leave musical discovery up to T.
26. What did you want and get?
A happy, healthy Simon. A Kindle. A good therapist.
27. What did you want and not get?
A cure for cancer.
28. What was your favorite film of 2013?
I...don't think I watched a single movie in 2013.
29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 33 and I spent the day unpacking and cleaning. We had driven back from a Minnesota trip the day before and I was frantically getting everything put back together and getting things as done as possible before we were set to drive back again a week later. My birthday barely registered this year.
30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
A cure for cancer. A big lottery win so I could have taken the whole year off.
31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept of 2013?
Uh...I wore clothes. They match, more or less.
32. What kept you sane?
Same as 2012: The friends who live in my computer/email/on Twitter. What did people do before the internet?
33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
Same as 2012: Not sure. I can't think of any TV-loves-of-my-life this year.
34. What political issue stirred you the most?
The news is depressing and scary, more so since Simon was born. I try to ignore politics when possible.
35. Who did you miss?
In the last two months of the year: my Mom.
36. Who was the best new person you met?
A lot of nurses and doctors come to mind. I wish I hadn't NEEDED to meet them, but I'm so thankful they were there and wonderful and took such good care of my mom.
37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2013.
You can't control everything, no matter how much you try.
38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
And long after you're gone, gone, gone.
I love you long after you're gone, gone, gone.